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DARE TO BE A.L.I.V.E. - DON’T BE A D.A.S.H.

An important focus of thinking or self-talk involves low frustration tolerance
(LFT). LFT describes your needless upsetness about life’s dif culties. It
involves questions like, “How much is too much? or “When do I say ‘uncle?”’
Are you able to tolerate a great deal of frustration or do you push yourself
over the edge by what you tell yourself about everyday hassles?

If your frustration tolerance is low, you may whine and scream about
dif culties and let them block you from reaching your goals. LFT encourages
you to give up in the face of hindrances.

It gets in the way of your satisfying your desires, particular your long-term
goals, by helping you to evaluate immediate frustration as “too much,” “too
hard,” and “harder than it should be.” Then you quit.

Typical LFT statements:

“I can’t stand it!”
“It’s more than I can bear!”
“I’m at the end of my rope!”
“It’s intolerable!”

“It’s too much!”
“It must not be this bad!”
If LFT is a problem for you, here’s how you can overcome it.

Refresh your memory about your Activating Experience. Complete the
following sentence.

What I can’t stand about this frustration is (Example: What I can’t stand

about this frustration is that nishing this report takes too long as it
shouldn’t!.

What I can’t stand about this interview is my interviewers taking up too
much of my time and then not giving me a job.”).

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