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Reason To Sing

human relationship. Learning along the way that yes, even his
own parents are human. And it is God’s grace that inspires us
to always learn, live and … love.

Gord: The man who helped save me from an abusive
relationship is the same man who caused my greatest heartache
ever. That’s my husband. What a dichotomy.
Over the years many women have asked, “How did you ever
get through the betrayal?” I tell them it is a choice. A choice to
move forward and a choice to NOT dwell on the past. I don’t
mean forget what happened. Do the work you need to do in
order to heal but then work on the present. It is vital that both
parties are willing and wanting to make the marriage work.
The other question is, “Do you trust Gord now?”
The answer is “Yes!” A confident, no-holds-barred
AFFIRMATIVE! I have trusted my husband since the day he
returned.
Many couples don’t survive an affair. The pain is excruciating
(even for the betrayer). The doubt, the insecurity, the loss of
trust and the breaking of a bond that only one person held
sacred – it’s a noxious recipe for failure. My marriage is the
hardest thing I ever fought for. But it was worth fighting for.
Do we have a perfect marriage? No, of course not. There is
no such thing. Does Gord drive me crazy at times? YES! As
I’m sure I do him.
But what Gord has given me over the years is a gift. And
that gift is the freedom to be myself. To be exactly who I am –
while I’m still trying to figure out who that even is. He accepts
me, idiosyncrasies, faults, weaknesses and all. I know he trusts
me and loves me unconditionally (as long as I keep him fed
because he hates the kitchen)!
We still talk about how crazy we were to marry each other.

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