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Sefer Chafetz Chayim םייח ץפח רפס 3 VOL-4
Hilchot Esurei Rechilut תוליכר ירוסיא תוכלה
Kelal Tet 'ח ללכ - םייחה רוקמ

berate him, or alternatively offer some other advice and based תקֶלֹחמ וֹא קזּה ןבוּארְִל הז ידֵי לע ןכּ םגּ בבּסיֶּשׁ םיִמעְפוּ
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on this advice, if followed through, the grievance between them
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will disappear. (Thinking it through carefully before reporting to אוּה יִכּ ,וֹבְשׁחבּ )וֹתְּשִׁא לע לעבלוּ ,הּלְעבּ לע הָשִּׁאל ןכו(
Shimon is very important because) Very often a common outcome .וֹתוּנרְָתּובּ וֹנוֹממ תא רזִּפּ
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of the report, that Plony wanted to insult him, is that Shimon’s
anger against Plony will grow and intensify and Shimon will take
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the initiative and provoke a fight with him resulting in an even more וֹמִּע ביִטייֶּשׁ ,וֹרבח תאֵמ שֵׁקּבְמֶּשׁכּ ,רהזִּל שׁי ןכו .ג
terrible conflict, G-d forbid. Therefore one must consider very וֹתָשׁקּבּ תוֹאלּמל לוֹכי וֹניאֶשׁ ,וֹביִשְׁמ אוּהו ,רבדּ הזיאבּ
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carefully how to approach this situation so that the outcome will be
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resolved (amicably). )ד( ,ינוֹלְפִל וֹז הבוֹט ָתיִשׂע המּל :וּנּלאְשׁי אלֶֹּשׁ )ג( ,הזבּ
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ידֵי לע אוּה יוּצמ יִכּ ,רבדּה תא יִל רפִּס וֹמצעבּ אוּהֶשׁ
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וֹתוֹא לע וֹרבח בלבּ תוֹמוֹערְַתּ תוֹלֲעהל ןכּ םגּ הזכּ רבדּ
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RK9/5. And now, with the help of Hashem Yitbarach, I will
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elaborate on another important fundamental principal in these טיִמְשׁהל לוֹכי וֹניאו םיִשׁנאל רבדּה תא הלּגֶּשׁ לע ,ינוֹלְפּ
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matters and in so doing the rule will be explained (i.e., “no .םהֵמ וֹמצע
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actual ‘bad’ will happen to Plony”). Understand clearly that this
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entire basic leniency that we wrote above in the 1 halacha of this
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Kelal was specifically framed in the context of Shimon not having ,תוּליִכרְ קבא םעטִּמ ןירִוּסא ןהֶשׁ ,םירִבדּ שׁי דוֹע .ד
finalized a transaction with Plony (15) although they had agreed וֹניא )ה( ,וילע ינוֹלְפּ רמאֶשּׁ המ ,וֹל רפּסְמֶּשּׁ המ םִא ,ןוֹגכּ
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in principal to close their deal at some point in the future. But if ,תצקְ דיִפּקְהל םדא ינבּ ךְרֶדֶּשׁ )ו( ,רבדּ קרַ ,יאנגּ רבדּ
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their deal was finalized (for each different type of deal an action
Mekor Hachayim of a transaction that forbids both sides from reneging on the deal) ךְרֶדּ וֹרבח וֹל הלּגי רֶשׁא ,דוֹסּה ריִתּסהל םדא ביּחו )ז( .ה
was done that our Authorities consider as being the finalization
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then reporting the gossip to Shimon is conditional. If he (Reuven)
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knows (16) no harm \ damages will happen to Plony (by reporting
his gossip to Shimon) but that Shimon will protect himself in
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,תוּליִכרְ ןינִע אוּהה דוֹסּה יוּלּגבּ ןיאֶשׁ יִפּ לע ףא ,רֶתס
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order not to sustain any loss caused by Plony, and Reuven is in
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compliance with all five rules listed above in the 2 halacha, then
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,וֹתּבַשׁחמ רפהל הבִּסו וילעבִל קזנ דוֹסּה יוּלּגבּ שׁי יִכּ
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he (Reuven) is familiar with Shimon’s personality, that if he tells
Shimon what he knows about Plony then Shimon will immediately תעדּ לע ריִבֲעמ אוּהו ,תוּעינצּה ךְרֶדִּמ אצוֹי אוּה הזבּ םגּ
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jump to a conclusion and he will believe the gossip as absolute
truth (either because his personality is to immediately believe the
“bad” he hears about someone or because he has circumstantial 6 The “giver” has no way of declining the favor to someone else and at the
same time maintain his sense of self-dignity; he was caught in a lie or at
evidence regarding Plony or because Shimon very much depends the very least in an uncomfortable situation. The “giver” then becomes
on Reuven) and Shimon will rationalize the law in his own favor indignant at Plony for his indiscretion.
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