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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander רדנלדירפ םייח ברה
A Peaceful Home ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
Chapter 1 - Lesson 7 ג רמאמ - פֶּא ֶר ר ִר ִׁ
Chapter 1 - Lesson 7 וּדי ֶב ֲעַיּ ַו" ]ג"י ,'א תּמ ְֶ[ ד ָח ִא ֶוּר ֵפ ְבּ וֶּ ְר ֵׁ ל" ַז ַר .תֶי ַבּ ַה -
ל ַע םי ֶֶ ָנ ֲא ָה ת ַדּב ֲע וּלי ֶטּ ֶה - "ךְ ִר ָפ ְבּ ל ֵא ָרֹ ְשֶי י ֵנ ְבּ ת ִא םֶי ַר ְצ ֶמ
She was given more insight than her husband. ךְי ֶר ָצ ְו .]ב"ע א"י ה ָטּס[ םי ֶֶ ָנ ֲא ָה ל ַע םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה ת ַדּב ֲע ַו םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה
ת ַדּב ֲע אי ֶה ּז - םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה ל ַע םי ֶֶ ָנ ֲא ָה ת ַדּב ֲע א ָמ ָל ְֶ ֶבּ :רוּא ֵבּ
The Torah discloses to us yet another aspect of the distinct personality י ֵר ֲה - םי ֶֶ ָנ ֲא ָה ל ַע םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה ת ַדּב ֲע ל ָב ֲא ,םי ֶֶ ָנּ ַה לי ֶב ְֶ ֶבּ ךְ ִר ָׁ
of a woman. (Beresheet 2:22) “Hashem built a woman from the rib
He took from man.” Chazal expounded on this pasuk as “Hashem םי ֶר ָב ְדּ ַה רוּא ֵבּ .ךְ ִר ָׁ ת ַדּב ֲע אלֹ ְו ,םי ֶֶ ָנ ֲא ָה ל ַע ֵמ ה ָלּ ַר ֲה ּז
gave her more insight than the man” (Midrash Beresheet Rabbah ה ִֶ ָר י ֶֶ ְפ ַנּ ַה פ ִפֹא ָבּ ךְ ַא ,ה ָלּ ַר ֲה ּז י ֶמ ְֶ ַגּ ַה פ ָבוּמּ ַבּ ִֶ ף ַא :אוּה
18:1) “In wisdom – Wisdom is what a man hears from others and
learns; In understanding – Understanding means he understands פי ֵא ְו ,ם ִה ָבּ פָי ְנ ֶע א ֵצּמ ּני ֵא י ֶכּ ,םי ֶֶ ָנ ת ַדּב ֲע תֹוֹש ֲע ַל ר ִב ִג ְל
something insightful by himself based on the words he learned from ּל ֵֶי ר ִֶ ֲא ַכּ ר ַר ַחי ֶל ְצ ַה ְל לּכָי ַעּצ ְר ֶמ ל ַע ַבּ .ם ִה ֵמ רוּׁ ֶס ּל
others.” (Rashi, Shemot 31:3) “Wisdom” is defined as – When a
person absorbs and then comprehends what he heard from his Rebbe ה ָפי ֶל ֲח ר ֵפּתּ ר ִֶ ֲא ַכּ רוּׁ ֶס ּל ֵֶי טָיּ ַח ַה .ּעּצ ְר ֶמּ ֶמ רוּׁ ֶס
and internalizes those concepts to the point where he can in turn ד ֵמּ ַל ְמ .ם ָל ְֶ ֻמוּ ה ִפָי פָי ְנ ֶבּ םי ֶר ֵמ ם ֶא רוּׁ ֶס ּל ֵֶי יא ַנּ ַבוּ ,ה ָא ָנ
transmit them to others without adulteration. “Understanding” is
defined as – When a person breaks down into separate components ת ִא ם ֵדּ ַר ְמוּ ד ֵמּ ַל ְמּ ִֶ ה ִזּ ֶמ רוּׁ ֶס ּל ֵֶי ם ֶא ר ַר , ַחי ֶל ְצ ַמ םי ֶד ָלְי
the things he’s heard and is then able to reassemble those components .וי ָדי ֶמ ְל ַת ְל יּא ְו ד ֵמּ ַל ְמ ַל יּא - אלֹ ָו .וי ָדי ֶמ ְל ַתּ
into new, novel meaningful ideas that he did not hear from his Rebbe
but nevertheless emerge from the teachings of his rebbe. (The word ךְ ַר ָבּ ְתֶי 'ה פ ַת ָנ ,ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ל ַע תֶי ַבּ ַה לוּה ֶנ ל ִֶ די ֶר ְפ ַתּ ַה ת ַל ָטּ ַה םִע
“Binah” which means “Understanding” is related both to the word
“Ehven” – a stone \ brick – and to the word “Binyan” \ “Building,” תּיּ ֶנּג ְד ַח ל ַע ַבּ ַה י ֵני ֵע ְבּ פ ֵה ִֶ ,תֶי ַבּ ַה תּדּב ֲע ֵמ רוּׁ ֶס ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָל
meaning, to build on his Rebbe’s word). פ ֵכ ָל .ל" ַנּ ַה ל" ַז ַר י ֵר ְב ֶד ְכּ ,ךְ ִר ָׁ ת ַדּב ֲע - פ ָמ ְצ ַע ל ַע תּר ְזּח ְו
Hashem Yitbarach endowed women with a special attribute of ט ֵלֶּ הּ ָל ְצ ִא .ב ַר ֶ ִג ִר ְבּ ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה ת ִא אוּה ךְוּר ָבּ ֶּד ָקּ ַה פ ַנ ָח
being able to perceive and understand the subtle details within a
general situation and see beyond those things that are superficial םי ֶרוֶּ ְקּ ִֶ ,תֶי ַבּ ַה י ֵנְי ְנ ֶע ְבּ ת ִר ִסּע ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָה .ל ִכ ֵשּׂ ַה ֵמ ר ֵתּי ֶ ִג ִר ָה
and obvious. She is able to delve into the subtleties of those details ,םי ֶֶוּח ַה ךְ ִר ִדּ אוּה י ֶמ ְֶ ַגּ ַה ם ָלּע ָה ל ִא ה ֶָי ֶגּ ַה .י ֶמ ְֶ ַגּ ַה ם ָלּע ָבּ
in a meaningful way, and from them build different outcomes. This תֶּוּח ְתּ ה ֵבּ ְר ַה ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָל ֵֶי .ל ִכ ֵשּׂ ַה ֵמ ר ֵתּי ֶ ִג ִר ָה ט ֵלֶּ הֹפוּ
attribute is important to her in order for her to be able to fulfill her
mission within the family. The obligations of the household that ה ָשּׁ ֶא ָל פ ֵתּנ ה ִפָי ר ָדּ ֻס ְמוּ י ֶר ָנ תֶי ַבּ .י ֶפֹי ְלוּ פּי ָקּ ֶנ ְלוּ ר ִד ֵס ְל ֶ ִג ִר
rest on the wife deal with many details, and occasionally even on the .י ֶֶ ְפ ַנ רוּׁ ֶס
most insignificant minute details, things that a man has no patience
for. (Thus, the secretarial “profession” is a women’s profession פּר ֲא ַבּ ר ִד ֵס י ֶל ְבּ :פּג ְכּ ,ר ִד ֵס טי ֶל ְֶ ַה ְל ךְי ֶר ָצּ ִֶ פי ֶב ֵמ ר ִב ִגּ ַה םַגּ
since it requires dealing with very many tiny and monotonous
details). ה ָנ ָב ֲה ּז ם ָלוּא .ֹש ֵׁ ַח ְמ אוּה ִֶ ר ִפ ֵסּ ַה ת ִא א ָצ ְמֶי אלֹ םי ֶר ָפ ְסּ ַה
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