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zled by that. I supported whatever Jean wanted. What could be more
personal than having the kind of wedding arrangement you wanted?
On the evening of November 18, we were invited to Honey and
Stan’s for dinner. After the dinner, Helen presented Jean with a complete
set of silver plate in a beautiful box. It snowed in Salt Lake for a couple
of days before we were married. The whole town seemed to be buried
under 18 inches of snow. On Wednesday, November 19, the sky was
entirely clear and the setting was beautiful. My mother accompanied
us to the Salt Lake Temple and we were married November 19, 1941.
It so happened there was a Salt Lake Tribune photographer outside who
took a picture of another couple and us. I dearly wanted my Dad to go
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have in walking. Dad clearly wanted to be with me. However, he said to
me, “I didn’t go through the temple with Sam. It wouldn’t look right if I
went through with you.” Sam had married Marie Worley three and a half
weeks earlier, and he probably did not attend because he was afraid he
would stumble. It was disappointing because I loved my Dad so much.
Nevertheless, his reasoning was indisputable and I accepted it (by this
time Dad’s walking was impaired due to multiple sclerosis).
After we emerged from the temple, Dad and Mom took us to
Hotel Utah for lunch. After lunch, Jean wanted to go to ZCMI to buy a
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after I married her was to buy her a pair of shoes.”
That afternoon I took Jean to visit Grandmother Eldredge.
Grandmother was happy that we had come to see her. After a while
I said, “Grandma, you haven’t given us any advice about marriage.”
Grandma said, “Everyone gives you advice when you get married – so
much that you ignore it.” I told her, “But Grandma, you’ve lived a long
life and we want your advice.” She then said, “You two are in love and
in a glow now but it is inevitable that you will have disagreements later.
When you disagree, never allow yourself to speak harsh, critical words
to your partner. Beware of sharp words as you would a serpent. Call-
ing persons names and using harsh words are like a knife – they cut the
other person. Later you may regret your words and apologize but, like a
cut, there is a hurting and it leaves scars. So – guard your tongues.” Wise

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