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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

--Knute Rockne

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SELFISHNESS AND SELF--INTEREST?

It is important to understand the distinction between these two words.
Selfishness is negative and destructive. It destroys relationships because it is based on
negative values. It believes in the win/lose principle. Self-interest is positive. It welcomes
prosperity, peace of mind, good health and happiness. Self-interest believes in win/win.
Envy/Jealousy--Crab Mentality

What is crab mentality? Do you know how they catch crabs? They put a box with one
side open for the crabs to walk in. It has a base but no lid. When the box is full, they
close the fourth side. The crabs could easily crawl out of the box and go free. But this
doesn't happen, because the crab mentality doesn't let it happen. The moment one crab
starts crawling up, the others pull it down and nobody gets out. Guess where they all end
up? They all get cooked.
The same thing is true with people who are jealous. They never get ahead in life and
prevent others from succeeding. Jealousy is a sign of poor self-esteem. It is a universal
trait. The biggest challenge comes when jealousy becomes a national character.
Countries start degenerating, resulting in disastrous consequences for coming genera-
tions. Jealousy corrupts people.

One Should Have an Open Mind Rather Than an Empty Mind

What is the difference between an open mind and an empty mind? An open mind is
flexible; it evaluates and may accept or reject ideas and concepts based on merit. An
empty mind is a dumping ground for good and bad. It accepts without evaluation.

STEPS TO BUILDING A POSITIVE PERSONALITY

Step 1: Accept Responsibility

"Responsibilities gravitate to the person who can shoulder them."

--Elbert Hubbard

When people accept additional responsibility they are actually giving themselves a
promotion.
Responsible behavior is to accept accountability and that represents maturity.
Acceptance of responsibility is a reflection of our attitude and the environment we
operate in. Most people are quick to take credit for what goes right but very few would
accept responsibility when things go wrong. A person who does not accept responsibility
is not absolved from being responsible. Our objective is to cultivate responsible behavior.
Responsible behavior should be inculcated right from childhood. It cannot be taught
without a certain degree of obedience.

Stop the Blame Game

Avoid phrases such as:

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