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RokZRooM Special ! You Can Win by Shiv Khera

1. Ignorance. When criticism comes out of ignorance, it can easily be eliminated or
corrected by bringing awareness.
2. Jealousy. When criticism comes out of jealousy, take it as a compliment in disguise.
You are being unjustly criticized because the other person wants to be where you are.
The tree that bears the most fruits also gets the most stones.

An inability to accept constructive criticism is a sign poor self-esteem. Suggestions for
accepting criticism:

Take it in the right spirit. Accept it graciously rather than grudgingly. Learn from it.
Accept it with an open mind, evaluate it and if it makes sense, implement it.
Be thankful to the person who gives constructive criticism because he means well and
has helped you.
A person with high self-esteem accepts positive criticism and becomes better, not bitter.

The problem with most people is they would rather be praised and lose than be criticized
and win.

Complaints

Some people are chronic complainers. If it is hot, it is too hot. If it is cold, it is too cold.
Every day is a bad day. They complain even if everything goes right. Why is it not a good
idea to complain? Because 50% of the people don't care if you have got a problem and
the other 50% are happy that you have got a problem. What is the point of complaining?
Nothing comes out of it. It becomes a personality trait. Does that mean we should never
complain or invite complaints? Not at all. Just like criticism, if it is done in a positive way,
complaints can be very useful. A constructive complaint:

(a) shows that the complainer cares.
(b) gives the receiver of complaints a second chance to correct himself.

Step 6: Smile and Be Kind

SMILE*

A smile costs nothing, but it creates much.
It enriches those who receive it without impoverishing
those who give it.
It happens in a flash, and the memory of it may last
forever.
None are so rich that they can get along without it, and
none so poor that they cannot be richer for its benefits.
It creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in a
business, and is the countersign of friends.
It is rest to the weary, daylight to the discouraged,
sunshine to the sad, and nature's best antidote for trouble.
Yet it cannot be begged, bought, borrowed, or stolen, for it
is something that is worth nothing to anyone until it is
given away.

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