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What makes a commitment worth keeping? It brings:

♦ Predictability.
♦ Security.
♦ Personal growth.
♦ Strong relationships between individuals and community.
♦ Lasting personal and professional relationships.

Even gangsters and crooks are looking for committed supporters. Commitment creates a
patch of green in a vast jungle; we call this security in an insecure world. Keeping
commitments is worth the effort. Commitment means surrendering our personal wants for
another person's needs.
Remember and keep in mind, needs are stronger than wants. Commitments act as a
glue which bonds relationships. Commitment implies sacrificing fun and willingness to
accept sorrow.
For example,

1. Commitment to friendship implies maintaining confidentiality.
2. Commitment to customer implies giving good service.
3. Commitment to marriage implies fidelity.
4. Commitment to decency implies staying away from vulgarity.
5. Commitment to patriotism implies sacrifice.
5. Commitment to job implies integrity.
6. Commitment to community implies responsibility.

Commitment is a sign of maturity. Commitment means not quitting at the first option or
sign of problems. Individuals with strong commitments build strong communities.
Relationships are based on commitment, not just on closeness and intimacy. A person
can be intimate and close and yet not be committed. With changing values, it is even
considered good to have uncommitted relationships.
Many people are not willing to make commitments because they feel they are not ready
for it. However, in the meantime, for years they keep sharing and using anything and
everything of one another. Their pretext is, "We are still checking out each other before
we commit." What are they checking out that they haven't already checked out in a few
days or a few months or a few years?
In my opinion they are selfish parasites who are trying to get as much as possible while
the going is good. They are only takers who are a liability to society. Many people
confuse commitment with confinement.
Relationships don't last because of passion and love but because of commitment and
empathy. A commitment implies putting the other person's needs ahead of one's own.
Sometimes good people with the best intentions are faced with conflicting commitments.
For instance,

1. A policeman is committed to caring for his wife who is on her death bed. But all of a
sudden he gets an emergency call to handle a situation, at the other end of town where
ten lives are at stake. What does he do?
2. A surgeon is looking forward to his daughter's graduation. He is committed to this
once-in-a-lifetime event. With all guests at the function, 20 minutes before the ceremony,

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