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                 * Journal of the American Family Association, November / December 1991.
                      But Gonzales, after a little pause and hesitation, turned back to shake his opponent's
                    hand and said, "The shot was faulty." As a result, he lost the serve and eventually, lost
                    the match.
                      Everyone was stunned. Who could imagine that a player with everything officially in
                    his favor, with winning in his pocket, would disqualify himself and lose. When asked
                    why he did it, Gonzales replied, "It was the only thing to do in order to maintain my
                    integrity." He lost the match, yet he was a winner.
                 3. A group of salespeople left town for a meeting and told their families they would be
                    back  home  Friday  evening  for  supper.  But  as  with  meetings  the  way  they  are,  one
                    thing leads to another and they didn't finish on time. They were delayed and had to
                    catch a flight. They came to the airport just at the last minute, with tickets in hand, and
                    ran, hoping the plane hadn't departed. While running, one of them hit a table and on
                    the table was a fruit basket. All the fruit got scattered and bruised but they didn't have
                    time to stop. They kept running and made it to the plane and all of them breathed a
                    sigh of relief that they had made it, except one. He got in touch with his feelings, got
                    up, said good-bye to his friends and went. What he saw made him glad that he came
                    out. He went to the table that was knocked down and behind the table was a ten-year-
                    old blind girl who was selling the fruits to make a living. He said, "I hope we haven't
                    ruined your day." He pulled out $10 from his pocket, handed it to her and said, "This
                    will take care of the fruits," and he left. The girl couldn't see what was going on; all she
                    could hear was the footsteps leaving. As the footsteps faded away, she shouted from
                    behind, "Are you God?" He missed his flight but was he a winner? You bet. One can
                    be a winner without a medal and one can be a loser with a medal if winning is not kept
                    in perspective.

                 WINNING IS AN EVENT; BEING A WINNER IS A SPIRIT

                 Three  people  ran  a  marathon  besides  hundreds  of  others.  The  medal  was  won  by  a
                 fourth person. But does that mean that these three people were losers? Not at all. They
                 all went into the race with different objectives. The first one went in to test his endurance
                 and he did and came out better than his expectations. The second wanted to improve on
                 his previous performance, and he did. The third person had never run a marathon in his
                 life. His objective was to complete the race and reach the finish line and he did. What
                 does that tell us? All three with different objectives met them and they were all winners,
                 regardless of who won the medal.
                 As Mark Twain said, it is better to deserve an honor and not have it than to have it and
                 not deserve it. Because dignity is not in possessing but deserving.
                 If winning is the only objective, a person may miss out on the internal rewards that come
                 with winning. More important than winning is winning with honor and deserving to have
                 won. It is better to lose honorably than to succeed with dishonesty. Losing honorably may
                 signify lack of preparation but dishonest winning signifies lack of character.
                 The real test of a person's character is  what he  would or  would  not do if he knew  he
                 would  never  be  found  out.  It  is  not  worth  compromising  one's  integrity  and  taking
                 shortcuts to win. You may win a trophy but knowing the truth you can never be a happy
                 person. More important than winning a trophy is being a good human being.










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