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UnderstandingYourIntentionswithContractionExercises

This is neither masturbation nor an endorsement of a masturbation exercise. It is an exercise to
teach you how to control your organ (member) to be ready and not ejaculate prematurely. For efficacy,
stimulate the organ up to the point of ejaculation. Do not ejaculate, instead sit up straight as in a Lotus
position (seated with legs crossed and pulled towards crotch), and raise the energy level by pulling or
squeezing the anus inward in a series of tense-release movements. Perform this exercise 10 times in

order to train yourself to be ready and not ejaculate. Start this exercise 1 to 2 hours prior to lovemaking.

In addition to the above exercise and any of the aforementioned exercises, you can try learning
how to control ejaculation by contracting buttock muscles. Find the spot located in the middle of the glans
penis, on the underside and gently press this point. Simultaneously, squeeze the anus inward and hold it
for about five seconds and then release. Repeat this for another 9 times. Start this buttock toning about 1
hour before intercourse. This exercise will improve blood flow to the penis and helps maintain erection.

Many guys are so focused on not cumming that they do what they think is the right thing to do and
think about something else. Maybe they think about baseball, a TV show or anything nonsexual in the
hopes of lasting longer. If I am with the woman I want to be with, I’d rather be thinking about the woman.

Simply put, I’d rather be in that moment.

Well, if you've tried thinking about cutting the grass or washing dishes, you know it doesn't help!
We have to unlearn bad habits. We need to focus on the current task. The opposite sex knows when we
are concentrating, holding our breath or doing anything other than focusing on giving the best
performance of our life. Some of us can lose a stroke or have our concentration broken with a simple
question during sex.

A guy wants to enjoy sex like a porn star and not have to distract himself in the hopes of lasting

long enough for the woman to not tell his friends that his performance was subpar. And a woman wants a
guy to move her so that the inner porn star emerges without inhibitions!

Well, here's how to fix this problem. Instead of distracting yourself, next time recognize how aware
you are of where you are and what you’re doing. No need in thinking about something other than sex and
your intentions. Do one thing at a time. And when you feel anxious or over-excited, you may need to
lower your arousal so that you can last longer by simply doing the following recommendations. This way,
you'll find yourself with increased staying power.

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