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What is Love, From One that we would never call each

Guy’s Point of View other names during a dis-
agreement. We talked about
when we would have children.
by C. F. Illingworth (We waited five years to have
our first child.) I think that we
were compatible because we
ver the centuries there The Beatles “All you need is came from similar back-
Ohave been volumes love”? Don’t we all want that? grounds, belonged to the same
written about the subject of As we grow older, and religion, and experienced the
love, including the question hopefully wiser, we realize that same economic situations.
“What is love?” Love has been there are many types of love During our marriage we
a driving force throughout and many ways of expressing have experienced many trials
human existence. There have love for one another. I remem- and tribulations, some easily
been powerful stories of ber when I was young and I manageable and some very
wars fought over the love of “fell in love”. I was thirteen and troublesome. Sometimes it
a woman. One story comes was enamored with the nine- took a toll on both of us, but
to mind. Menelaus, king of teen year old girl who lived we had each other to rely on.
Sparta, fought Paris for Hellen next door. It didn’t bother Mature lovers realize that with
of Troy. Although women me that she was married and the power of two you can both
have routinely been treated had a two year old daughter. handle difficult situations
poorly throughout history, I experienced a feeling that as long as you are there to
they have also been regarded caused me to lose my appe- support each other. We had
with respect and adoration tite and undergo a kind of a learned early in our marriage
in the name of love as well. woozy feeling throughout my that we both had to be willing
However, there are stories whole body. This is sometimes to give and take in order to
where women have fought called “puppy love”. Then come to a mutual agreement.
for a man. Cleopatra used there is that more mature type We found that by giving each
her army against the Roman of love that happens when other some space during or
Empire because of her love for a couple stops admiring a after a disagreement, we could
Marc Anthony. person just for their looks, but come back to the problem
In today’s society, love rather for their whole being. with an attitude of coopera-
has taken on many meanings Every couple expresses their tion to work toward a mutual
and feelings. A woman usually deep feelings for one another compromise. The bottom line
has a romantic view of love, in a variety of ways. A mature is, loving someone is only easy
while many men see love as a loving relationship develops as long as you are committed
way to obtain certain favors respect, trust, humor and the to each other’s wellbeing.
from a woman. I have heard knowledge that you are both What is Love? Love is not
it said that woman use sex to physically and emotionally what you want from the other
obtain love and men use love involved in the relationship. person, but rather what you
to obtain sex. I don’t think They support each other in are willing to give to the ‘love
that is true in all relation- good times and hard times. of your life’. Like truth, love
ships; however, one could see The vows that couples express will endure.
that blatant attitude in many during a wedding ceremony (Mr. and Mrs. Illingworth
movies over the last 90 years. are not just something to say, have been happily married
Also, many love songs seem to but are words to live by. Make for over fifty five years and
be idealistic when it comes to no mistake, there will always have three children, eight
the description of both men be disagreements and misun- grandchildren and one great
and women’s view of romantic derstandings in any relation- grandchild).
love. Some songs extol the ship; but in those cases, love
qualities of an idealistic man, will endure. Mr. Illingworth is the author
while other ballads praise the When my future wife of two books. One is a comical,
virtues of a woman. In these and I talked, we covered country, family-themed book.
songs, both men and women many facets of marriage. We The second book is a memoir
seem to envision an idealistic talked about how to treat one of his childhood. They can be
view of a loving relationship. another. Both our parents had found at Amazon.com under
Have you heard the Song by arguments, and we decided C. F. Illingworth

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