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What am I going to do with my life?

At UCSD I majored in Business/Marketing and took many fashion classes as
well. I got married after college, I was 24 at the time. I met my husband

Tim at an aerobics class at the YMCA. He was the only man there. At the

time he was in law school at UCSD, and one of the things that drew me to
Tim was that he would swim an hour a day with me. Probably not the

greatest reason to get involved with a man, but I was young and naïve, and
we were in love. We married, and two years later we had our daughter

Britt. I helped my husband get his law practice off the ground, and I would

later regret that move. The reality of the marriage was that we were just
two very different people and we were not meant to be together. We were

both just kids. We were like oil and water. I won't point the finger of blame

at Tim, it was just that I looked at my life and realized how unhappy I was
and I knew that I could not spend one more day married to him. So, after

6½ years I filed for divorce. Tim was not happy. He just tried to make my

life miserable, but I think what angered him, even more, was that I was
probably the happiest divorcee around, since just getting out of the

marriage made me ecstatic. Somehow he reminded me of one of those

clown punching bags, every time I hit him and thought he was down he
appeared again.

I think what helped me through the divorce, and also many other things
that happened in my life was my core foundation. My childhood was

Idyllic, but at the same time, it made me very naïve and trusting. I don't

want to believe anyone would ever intentionally try to hurt me or that
anyone would lie to me. It gives you that resilience, but at the same time

people seek you out and take advantage of you.