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polarized into extremes. Growing up we for an integral part of the work is the
saw the challenges in their relationship, ‘umbra solis’ (shadow of the sun) or ‘sol

and we tell ourselves, we Many people see niger’ (black sun) of the
would never have the kind alchemists, the black shadow

of relationship they had. An only opposites in which everybody carries
amazing aspect of this is the their parents, not with him, the inferior and

amount of time it takes to realizing both therefore hidden aspect of

recognize that we actually are actually a lot the personality, the weakness
created a version of our that goes with every strength,

parent’s life for ourselves. alike because of the night that follows every
the compensatory day, the evil in the good.

Many people never question nature of the The realization of this fact is

themselves about their life psyche. naturally coupled with the
or relationships. They blame danger of falling victim to the

their partners, get divorced, leave their shadow, but the danger also brings with it
jobs, move to another city, whatever. By the possibility of consciously deciding not
doing this, they do not integrate their to become its victim. A visible enemy is

shadows and parental complexes and the always better than an invisible one. In this
scenario will just repeat with someone case I can see no advantage whatever in

else. We each need to become aware of behaving like an ostrich. It is certainly no
what is really happening. Everything ideal for people always to remain childish,
in our unconscious wants to become to live in a perpetual state of delusion

conscious, and this is the only way it about themselves, foisting everything
can come to conscious awareness. If we they dislike on to their neighbors and

are madly-in-love with someone that we plaguing them with their prejudices and
don’t even like or trust, we are stuck in a projections. How many marriages are
mother or father complex still trying to wrecked for years, and sometimes forever,

get our Mom or Dad’s approval. because he sees his mother in his wife and
she her father in her husband, and neither

In a profound elaboration of unconscious ever recognizes the other’s reality! Life
collusion, Carl Jung gives credence to has difficulties enough without that; we
this phenomenon. This below is a rather might at least spare ourselves the stupidest

long quote but very worth reading. of them. But, without a fundamental
discussion of the situation, it is often

“The impulses underlying it certainly show simply impossible to break these infantile
their dark side to begin with, however projections.”
much one may try to whitewash them; —Carl Jung, Collected Works: Vol. 16, The

Practice of Psychotherapy, paragraph 420
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