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.הָלְעַמְל וּנְמַדּקְִהֶשׁ הֶז .א
די קרפ
םייח ץפח
Chafetz Chayim הרימשה תבוח סרטנוק .םָלְסִכְו םָעְשׁרִ ריִכְּזַי םִא יִתְּלִבּ ,םָתקָדְִצ ריִכְּזַהְל :יִתאָבּ רֵצּקְַל יִכֹנָא ןֵכָא ,םיִבוּתְכַּה ןִמ תוֹיָארְ איִבֵהְו .ויָניֵעְבּ אוּה קיִדַּצ יִכּ ,וֹנוֲֹעַל גַאדְִי אלְֹו ,הָערָָה וֹכּרְַדִּמ
Kuntres Chovat HaShemirah
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And so the insightful person who wants to accept upon himself
the obligation of disciplining his speech will be very careful
to avoid stumbling into this sin of anger. Because if he is not
careful, then with the passage of time he will have fallen into all
of the ways that are described above.
This is the language used by the Rambam in Hilchot De’Aut,
in the 2 perek, in the 3 halacha: “Anger is an especially
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evil personality trait and it is appropriate for man to practice
the extreme opposite behavior and train himself not to become
angered even by something he would be justified in becoming
angry about. If man feels that he must impose a sense of fear
(respect) on his children and the members of his household, or
on his society if he was a community leader and he wanted to
express anger at them in order that they would change to do
good, he should appear before them as an angry person in order
to admonish them. But his mind should be clear and focused,
as someone who is outwardly displaying anger but inwardly is
(calm and under control and) not angry. Our Early Sages have
said that whoever becomes angry – if he is a Chacham his wisdom
will depart from him. If he is a prophet, his prophecy will vanish
from him. Angry people have no life. Therefore Chazal have
commanded us to stay far away from anger until the point where
man has trained himself not to become angry even if his anger
is justifies. This is the correct approach in life. (The Rambam’s
words are quoted up until this point).
Now we will discuss the concept of being alert not to allow
anything conceited \ prideful to pass one’s lips. Pride \ conceit \
haughtiness is a very bad personality trait and can bring a person
to become listed among four different groups of evil people (who
will never merit to sit in the presence of the Shehchinah, [Gemara
Sotah 42a]), namely, liars, scoffers, flatterers \ (manipulators)
and those who speak Lashon Hara. This haughty person will
degrade his fellow Jew in order to inflate his own sense of
prominence and humiliate his friend. This haughty person will
mock his friend and will glorify himself falsely with character
183 182 די קרפ ש ש ש .וֹנוֹשְׁל םייח ץפח הרימשה תבוח סרטנוק .דֹאְמ וֹז הָדִּמִּמ קֵחרְַתִהְל .ל"ַנַּה לָכְבּ לֵשָׁכִּי ןַמְזַּה ךְֵשְׁמֶהְבּ
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בוּשָׁי אלְֹו ,"ויָניֵעְבּ ויָלֵא קיִלֱחֶה י
םימש דובכ סרטנוק
החיתפ
תַבֲעוֹתּ עַבֶשְׁו 'ה אֵנָשׂ הָּנֵה שֶׁשׁ" :)ז"ט 'ו יֵלְשִׁמ( בוּת ָּכֶשׁ וֹמ ְּכ
ןי ֵּב םיִנָדְמ ַח ֵּלַשְׁמוּ 'וֹגְו רקֶָשׁ ןוֹשְׁל תוֹמרָ םִיַניֵע וֹשְׁפַנ
.ן ָּלֻכ ְּבֶשׁ הָשׁ ּקַָה תיִעיִבְשַּׁה איִה וֹז ּדְ ,ל"ַזֲח וּרְמָאְו ."םיִחַא
,ויָמָי ל ָּכ הֶטוֹשׁ םֵשׁ ְּב ארֵ ּקִָהְל םָדָאָל וֹל בָטוּמ ,תֶמֱאֶבוּ
.אוּה ךְוּר ָּב שׁוֹד ּקַָה יֵנְפִל בָעֹתְמ אוּהֶשׁ ויָלָע בֵת ָּכִי לַאְו
הרָוֹתּ ַּב לוֹדָּג קֶלֵח אוּהֶשׁ ,יִתאָצָמוּ תוֹיִּשׁרָ ָּפַה תֶא י ִּתְשׂ ַּפִחְו
ר ָּת ֻּמֶשּׁ הַמ .םָדָאָה לֶשׁ וירָוּבּ ּדִ תוֹדוֹא )* ה ָּטַמְל םי ִּתקְ ַּתְעֶהְו
רוּסָאֶשּׁ הַמוּ ,ַעֹמְשִׁל ר ָּת ֻּמֶשּׁ הַמ .ר ֵּבדְַל רוּסָאֶשּׁ הַמוּ ,ר ֵּבדְַל
ר ָּת ֻּמֶשּׁ הַמ .בֹהֱאֶל רוּסָאֶשּׁ הַמוּ ,בֹהֱאֶל ר ָּת ֻּמֶשּׁ הַמ .ַעֹמְשִׁל
לקְֵלקְַלוּ ט ֵּפְטַפְל ה ָּברְִה םִא וּלִּפֲאַו .רוּסָאֶשּׁ הַמוּ ,אֹנְשִׂל
הֶיְהִּי הַמ ,ויָתוֹנוֲֹע ידְֵי לַע ערָֹצְמ הָשֲׂעַּנֶשׁ דַע ,וֹרוּבּדִ ְּב
.בוּשָׁל הֶצרְִּיֶשׁ ְּכ ,וֹנוּקּ ִּת
ההגה
םירִוּסֲאָה םירִוּבּ ּדִ יֵנְיְנִע ְּב הרָוֹתּ ַּב ר ָּכְז ֻּמֶשׁ הַמ ,ןא ָּכ ריִּכְזַא
,שָׁחָנ ּדְ הֶשֲׂעַמ ,ל ֹּכַל ןוֹשׁארִ .ןָיְנִעָה הֶּזִמ תוּלְשְׁל ַּתְשִׁהַהְו
הָתיִמ םרַָּג הֶזְו ,אוּה ךְוּר ָּב שׁוֹד ּקַָה לַע ערָָה ןוֹשָׁל ר ֵּפ ִּסֶשׁ
םִא" :)'כ ח"כ תיִשׁארֵ ְּב( אֵצֵּיַו תַשׁרָָפְבוּ .םָלוֹע יֵא ָּב לָכְל
תיִשׁארֵ ְּב( ל"ַזֲח וּרְמָאְו ,"'וֹגְו יִנרַָמְשׁוּ ידִ ָּמִע םיִהלֱֹא הֶיְהִי
.ערָָה ןוֹשׁ ָּלִמ - "יִנרַָמְשׁוּ" :)'ע הָשׁרָ ָּפ ,אֵצֵּיַו תַשׁרָ ָּפ ה ָּברַ
:)'ב ז"ל תיִשׁארֵ ְּב( בוּת ָּכֶשׁ ,ףֵסוֹי ּדְ הֶשֲׂעַמ ְּב בֶשֵּׁיַו תַשׁרָָפְבוּ
ה ָּב ִּסַה הָתְיָה וֹזֶּשׁ ,"םֶהיִבֲא לֶא הָערָ םָת ָּב ּדִ תֶא ףֵסוֹי אֵבָּיַו"
תוֹמְשׁ תַשׁרָָפְבוּ .םִירְַצִמְל לֵארְָשִׁי יֵנ ְּב תדַירִיִל הָנוֹשׁארִָה
דוֹע .י"ִשּׁרַ שׁוּרֵפ ְּב םָשׁ ןֵּיַע ,"רָב ָּדַה עדַוֹנ ןֵכָא" :)ד"י 'ב םָשׁ(
אלֹ ןֵהְו" :)'א 'ד תוֹמְשׁ( םוֹלָשַּׁה ויָלָע וּנ ֵּברַ הֶשֹׁמ רַמָאֶשׁ ,םָשׁ
ךָדֶָיְב הֶּז הַמ" :)'ב םָשׁ( ךְרַ ָּבְתִי 'ה וֹל ביִשֵׁהֶשׁ ,"יִל וּניִמֲאַי
ידֵיִל םָדָאָה תֶא הָאיִבְמוּ ,דֹאְמ הָערָ הָדִּמ איִה םַגּ הָוֲאַגַּה .הָוֲאַגּ רַבְדּ ויִפִּמ אֵצֵי אלֶֹּשׁ ,תוּריִהְזַּה תוֹדוֹא רֵבּדְַנ הָת