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CELEBRATIONS

of Life

ot all cultures believe in earth burial, but all cultures practice
ceremonies to honour a loved one when they pass. Unfortunately,
the pandemic prevented most families from hosting our traditional
N funeral rites. As a result, there is renewed interest in a more DIY style
of goodbyes. This has come about out of necessity because it is human nature to
mourn loss. Hosting memorial farewells has become a more requested option for
families than typical funerals.
Planning a Celebration of Life, Memorial Service or Remembrance Event is
similar to coordinating other life acknowledgements: one of the first decisions is to
choose a venue.
Backyards, community halls, lake properties, golf courses, galleries, parks
are all good choices for venues. There has been an increase in the use of
cemeteries for final services (body burial and/or cremation interments) this
past couple of years. Families host small interment events and then go out
for refreshments or a meal.

BONNIE HOFFMANN
FUNERAL DIRECTOR, PINE BOX FUNERALS INC.

pineboxfunerals.ca I 780-910-6432

To anchor this event, though, is a specialized segment of
time to pay tribute -- the ceremony or service itself.
People often express they don’t want a sad affair. The
ceremony portion of the event should move attendees from
an acknowledgement of sadness and change to a reflection and
celebration of the life and influence that was, and which will
continue on in a different manner. We cannot celebrate treasures if
we don’t recognize our loss in their absence.
Setting aside 30-60 minutes for this specific purpose creates an
intentional period for reflection and consideration. Readings, music, art,
stories and ceremonies provide depth during this time. And the ceremony
typically closes with words of inspiration and blessing, because we all need
to be encouraged and reminded that life is not perfect. There is healing
and softening of some of our raw grief edges when we recognize and
acknowledge the life that was lived and has come to an end.
A service with thoughtful, intentional structure will pave the
way for the best part, the part where we share and hear stories.
The mixing and mingling, the hospitality and the connection --
deep, heartfelt connection. I don’t like the term “closure.” That’s
another article in itself. I prefer the term “completion.” After
such a life commemoration event, I hope you retain a sense of
completion.

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