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Communication is Everything

There comes a time in every relationship place. The fascination is a compulsive
when the honeymoon is over, the bloom phenomenon in the sense that it lacks a
is off the rose and we are no longer conscious motive; it is not a process of

seeing our ideal in the other person will, but something that rises up from the
because we are starting to get to know unconscious and forcibly obtrudes itself

them. Our unconscious will facilitate upon the conscious mind.”
this by producing quarrels between us. — Carl Jung, Two Essays in Analytical

I am explaining this so that you can Psychology, par 136
let go of feeling like a victim when this
happens. It occurs in the 2nd phase of We have to separate to differentiate and

every relationship. It’s inevitable. No see who our partner really is. We also
relationship remains ideal forever. begin to express more and more of our

authentic selves because no one can be
When we first meet someone we are their persona 24/7. Yet, at the beginning,
attracted to, we tend to idealize them. Carl we all try to put our best foot forward.

Jung explains we are projecting something Everybody wants to be highly thought
of ourselves onto this person. It’s interesting of by the person that they are fascinated
to hear someone say, “You’re not who I by or attracted to. A relationship with

thought you were.” That means they are no anyone new starts that way. This isn’t just
longer a projection or a fantasy of what we relationships with significant others or

saw in the beginning — which was only marriage partners, this is with everybody.
what we wanted to see. That includes our friends, our teachers,

our clients — anybody we idealize.
“A fascination of this kind is never exercised
by one person upon another; it is always It’s also important when a disagreement

a phenomenon of relationships, which occurs, that we learn to take turns giving
requires two people in so far as the person in. Each person has to be willing to give in

fascinated necessarily has a corresponding sometimes and not insist on always being
disposition. But the disposition must be right. We all make mistakes and nobody
unconscious or no fascination will take is always right. The successful resolution

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