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unconditionally accept who takes Control or both agree to give up Control. Otherwise, both will constantly jostle

to wrest Control, resulting in unending unpleasantness, conflicts, and possible relationship breakup.’

‘OMG! Betsy and I were in this situation -- both attempting to seize Control and neither willing to cede.

This was causing frustration, annoyance, and exasperation for both of us! Our relationship has revived only

because we have both vacated Control.’

‘We have now moved to Empathy and Compassion – the area of understanding, care and concern for each

other. It has allowed us to value each other; bringing a remarkable tranquility and calmness in our relationship.’

‘I think I have found the answer.’ But several questions still bothered him.

‘Can it be sustained?’ wondered Dan. ‘Moving from Control to Empathy was easy and seamless.’

‘Wouldn’t going back to Control be equally easy?’ The question frightened Dan and he shuddered in

cold sweat.

‘Cannot allow our relationship to slide back! We have to find a way to sustain. Understanding how we

came out of Control may probably help?’

‘We dropped our egos. Control feeds on ego; no ego, no desire to control!’

‘We have brought our relationship from the verge just in time. We will control our ego and shun Control, if

not for our, at least for Jon’s sake!’

His thoughts turned to Jonathan who has been the glue holding their relationship. Jon, as

they fondly called him, was close to both and maturely balanced the relationship without taking

sides. Thoughts of Jonathan brought quietude to his mind, as they always did. Dan recalled

that even Jon, in his teens, had rebelled whenever on rare occasions they tried to control him.