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Engage her in meaningful conversation, and make sure she knows that you are hearing what she is saying.
Then ask her “how does that make you feel?” She will give you a point.

Wives, your husband will give you huge bonus points for giving him sex.

Your husband will also give you huge bonus points for believing in him. Because his fragile ego is devastated
whenever he feels put down it means so much to him when you believe in him. If you put him down, he will
cease to share any of his dreams with you. Most affairs begin because of emotional needs rather than sexual
needs.

Learn how to keep the reset button handy. Whenever a video game gets too out of hand, you can press the
reset button and start over. Wouldn't it be great if relationships had a reset button which could reset
everything back to the way it was in the beginning of your marriage? They do have a reset button. You just
have to use it. You can learn the habit of pressing the reset button, forgetting past hurts, and pressing on
with love in your relationship.

Refusing to forgive is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. It leads to bitterness, which
eats away on the inside of you like a cancer.

Forgiveness is an act. Forgiveness is not an emotion. We dare not wait to obey God's commands to forgive
until we feel like it. Forgiveness is not an erasure of the bad memory. Do not tell your mate that you cannot
forgive him because you can’t forget what happened. We must make the decision to forgive our mate even
though we will remember the pain.

When we choose to forgive, we are making the decision to not hold the hurtful action against our mate any
longer. We are making the decision to not take revenge. Forgiveness says, “I forgive you. I will never use it
against you in the future. I will never speak about it again, not to you or anyone else.”

In conclusion, forgiveness begins the process by which trust and the relationship can be rebuilt. The
offending partner should initiate in asking forgiveness and rebuilding trust. The offended partner must grant
forgiveness and respond positively in rebuilding trust. The goal is not who wins or loses, but the goal is to
restore harmony and oneness. Remember, God's power is available to me when I am willing to seek or grant
forgiveness.

Do not allow Financial issues to become a Divisive Issue

As our financial options increase, so, normally, does the amount of needed discussion time concerning these
financial decisions. It is not uncommon for married couples to experience an increase in division over
financial issues as their growing financial state increases the amount of purchases possible to them. Near
the beginning of the marriage, when the amount of money available to them is low, most financial decisions
are already made for the couple by shear necessity. There is little need for discussion. But as their financial
state increases, and other needs (like supporting children) grow, so does the couple’s need to make good
financial decisions together. If they do not improve this ability financial divisiveness can end the marriage.

First, both husband and wife need to function in these financial discussions as a cohesive unit. While the
husband has been given the role of the head of the wife by God’s design, God has also provided the wife as
a helper to the husband. They need to function together to make the best financial decisions. It is wrong for
the husband to insist that because he earns more of the financial income he should be able to make all the
financial decisions without his wife’s help. This kind of attitude will greatly increase tension in the marriage,
which will lead to great unhappiness. Both the husband and the wife need to function together as a cohesive
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