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Rabbi Chayim Friedlander רדנלדירפ םייח ברה
A Peaceful Home ךלהא םולש יכ תעדיו סרטנוק
Chapter 5 - Lesson 5 ה רמאמ - י ֶעי ֶב ְר ר ִר ִׁ

eye, and with only that disaster immediately followed even though תוּס ֲחַי ְת ֶה ַבּ ר ֵתּי ְבּ ה ָבוֶּ ֲח אי ֶה י ֶכּ ,ּז ה ָדּ ֶמ ה ָר ָצ ְר ֶבּ ריִבְּסַנ
he had no intent to hurt her emotionally, he was late only because
the lecture was longer than usual. Nevertheless, a devastating .תֶי ַבּ ַה פַי ְנ ֶב ְל ה ָנּכ ְנּ ַה תי ֶתּ ְֶ ַתּ ַה ת ִא ת ִר ִצּי ְו ,ּתּ ְֶ ֶא ל ִא
punishment followed immediately because of the emotional hurt י ֶנ ָע ִה ת ִא" :ל" ַז ַר י ֵר ְב ֶדּ ת ִא ]'ב פ ָמי ֶס 'ב ר ִר ִׁ[ לי ֵע ְל וּנא ֵב ֵה
he caused his wife. The Gaon Rabbi Chayim Shmuelevitz ZT”L
asked – Did his death save his wife from her hurt?! If not for his ה ָא ָבּ ּז ה ָל ֲע ַמ ."י ֶנ ָע ה ָתּ ַא וּלּ ֶא ְכּ ךָ ְמ ְצ ַע ְבּ ל ֵכּ ַתּ ְס ֶמ י ֵו ֱה - ךְ ָמּ ֶע
punishment her husband would have merely returned home late, yet פַי ְנ ֶבּ ."ּר ֵב ֲח ם ֶע לֹע ְבּ אֹ ֵשּנ" ת ַדּ ֶמ י ֵדְי ל ַע הּ ָתוּמ ֵל ְֶ י ֵדי ֶל
now her husband was gone forever! The explanation is – Chazal
are teaching us a lesson that this is an uncompromising spiritual ם ֵה ָה םי ֶמָיּ ַבּ י ֶהְי ַו" :]א"י ,'ב תּמ ְֶ[ ה ֶָ ָר ָׁ ַה אי ֶה ּז ה ָדּ ֶמ ְל ב ָא
law and that the punishment for emotional oppression even under :י" ֶֶ ַר ֶ ֵר ֵפוּ .'וּכ ְו "ם ָתלֹ ְב ֶס ְבּ א ְרַיּ ַו וי ָח ִא ל ִא א ֵצֵיּ ַו ה ִֶֹמ ל ַדּ ְגֶיּ ַו
these inadvertent circumstances is immediate, no different than ."ם ִהי ֵל ֲע ר ֵצ ֵמ תּי ְה ֶל ּבּ ֶל ְו וי ָני ֵע פ ַת ָנ - ם ָתלֹ ְב ֶס ְבּ א ְרַיּ ַו"
anyone who violates a law of nature will be harmed. If someone
is standing near the edge of a river and is not careful and a strong ,]י" ֶֶ ַר ם ֶָ פֵיּ ַע[ רֹ ַש ְל ה ָנּ ַמ ְת ֶנ ְו הֹע ְר ַׁ תי ֵב ְבּ ה ָלּ ֻד ְג ֶל ה ָל ָע ה ִֶֹמ
wind blows it will push him over into the water, so too this starkly ל ִֶ ם ָר ֲע ַצ ְבּ ל ַעֹפ ְבּ ף ֵתּ ַתּ ְֶ ֶה ְל י ֵד ְכּ פּמ ְר ַא ָה ֵמ א ָצָי אוּה ם ָלוּא
uncompromising spiritual law will devastate him for the emotional
oppression of his wife. 18 17 The Gaon Rabbi Chayim would often say ,"ם ָתּל ְב ֶס ת ִא א ְרַיּ ַו" בוּת ָכּ אלֹ .]ה ָבּ ַר תּמ ְֶ ֶבּ ם ֶָ פֵיּ ַע[ ל ֵא ָרֹ ְשֶי
“An offense between one person and another is a fire that burns.” ּבּ ֶל ְו וי ָני ֵע ת ִא סי ֶנ ְכ ֶה ִֶ י" ֶֶ ַר ד ֵמּל ה ִזּ ֶמ ,"ם ָתלֹ ְב ֶס ְבּ" א ָלּ ִא

ךְ ִר ִד ְבּ ."וי ָני ֵע ת ִא פ ַת ָנ" - פֶּא ֶר ר ָב ָדּ .ל ֵא ָרֹ ְשֶי ל ִֶ ם ָל ְב ֶס ְבּ
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ר ַר פי ֶח ְב ַמ אוּה ה ִאּר ִשּׁ ה ַמ ל ָכ ְבוּ ,ּמ ְצ ַע ם ֶע רוּס ָע ם ָד ָא ל ָל ְכּ
ם ֶע לֹע ְבּ אֹ ֵשּנ ת ַדּ ֶמ ל ִֶ פֶּא ֶר ָה ד ַע ַצּ ַה .ּמ ְצ ַע ְל ַע ֵגּנּ ִֶ ה ִמּ ַבּ
יוּב ֶָ ם ָד ָא ָה ִֶ "י ֶכֹנ ָא" ָה ל ִֶ ר ָצ ְב ֶמּ ַה ֵמ ר ֵר ְח ַתּ ְֶ ֶה ְל אוּה ּר ֵב ֲח

ה ִאּר אוּה ִֶ י ֶפ ְכּ ּתּא תּא ְר ֶל ּר ֵב ֲח ַל וי ָני ֵע ת ִא רֹס ְמ ֶל ְו ,ּבּ

י ֶפ ְכּ ּתּ ֶא ֶי ֶגּ ְר ַה ְל ,ּבּ ֶל ת ִא ת ֵת ָל - י ֶנ ֵשּׁ ַה ד ַע ַצּ ַה .ּמ ְצ ַע ת ִא
.ּמ ְצ ַע ת ִא ֶי ֶגּ ְר ַמּ ִֶ

ס ַחַיּ ַה ְו ,ּפוּג ְכּ אי ֶה ִֶ ,ּתּ ְֶ ֶא י ֵׁ ַל ְכּ ר ַמ ֱא ִנ יא ַדּ ַו ְבּ ה ִז בוּיִּח
18. There are certainly spiritual laws which if violated will vary in
consequence, as some will activate or prevent the occurrence of a פ ָר ָמ י ֵר ְב ֶד ְכּ ,לאֹמֹ ְש דַי ְל פי ֶמָי דַי ס ַחַי ְכּ תּי ְה ֶל ךְי ֶר ָצ ָהי ִל ֵא
natural event. In this instance of Rav Rachumi, our Rock-Whose-
Actions-Are-Perfect-And-Just activated the consequence of the law in א ָלּ ִא ,פי ֶאוּשּׂ ֶנּ ַה ם ֶע ּמ ְצ ַע ֵמ א ָבּ ִֶ ר ָב ָדּ ה ִז פי ֵא ם ָלוּא .א"ּז ֲח ַה
great measure for violating this starkly uncompromising spiritual law אֹ ֵשּנ ל ִֶ ה ָל ֲע ַמּ ַה ת ִא תּנ ְר ֶל ל ֵדּ ַתּ ְֶ ֶה ְלוּ ,ךְ ָכּ ל ַע דֹב ֲע ַל ךְי ֶר ָצ
in response to the “emotional oppression” experienced by the Rav’s
wife; but this is not the place to elaborate on the topic. .ּתּ ְֶ ֶא ם ֶע לֹע ְבּ

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