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just have to pull myself up by think therapy is more appropri-
my bootstraps and focus on ate, but don't hesitate to reach
getting a full-time job.” out when you'd like coaching.
Annie just needed to work And I also hold that boundary
to survive, so she took jobs that for the mental health compa-
she didn't love, “I took admin- nies that I work for as well.”
istrative assistant jobs”, but in Annie also admits that
the back of her mind she knew there are times when people
she would end up doing what can do therapy and coaching
she loved, coaching. in unison. In some cases that
won’t work, for example, if you
“I knew it was not a safe
Photos by Dawn Nicoli/Nicoli Productions it because you love this, and not in recovery, then you
career going out on my own,
suffer from alcoholism and
but I told myself ‘you're doing
you're actively drinking. You're
would need to see a therapist. If
this is what's going to happen.’
you're going through a divorce
I began searching for advanced
and are trying to ‘find yourself’
programs in coaching and
then your care is better served
found this master's program in
Integrated Wellness Coaching.
in therapy, but that doesn't
I read about the program and
mean they can't work with me
on things such as self-confi-
almost cried because this was
dence, self-compassion, rela-
literally exactly what I wanted
coaching certificate. I wanted a
healthy boundaries.”
complete education, so I would
One of the most important
Ann Delre to do. I didn't want a two-week tionship building, and setting
become an expert in this field.”
steps in the process is often
Annie loved the program,
just listening to her patients
so she can honestly evaluate
as it taught her about lifestyle
medicine, the holistic ap-
of a client’s process is always
proaches to mental health care, their needs. “The beginning
By Judith A. Habert “It was a great program. All the talking about values. I will
professors were females and ask, what are your values? If a
just amazing and inspirational client says that their life is all
nnie Delre knew from a a speech language pathologist, women. They were all suc- out of whack, I try to break the
Ayoung age that she wanted there are always jobs. They al- cessful women, with thriving situation down for them. If,
to do something with her life ways need people. You can do a coaching practices, and they for instance, we identified one
that would make a difference. private practice. So I picked the all had their own backgrounds of their core values is honesty.
She attended school in her safe route. I knew I want to be that weren't so beautiful, but But they tell me they are in a
home State of New Jersey, at wealthy or financially indepen- they still turned out to be beau- relationship with a person who
William Paterson University, dent. I knew I didn't want to tiful women.” has cheated on them multiple
and toyed with the idea of be- get married. I didn't want kids. Annie’s practice is varied, times. I point out that of course
ing a counselor, or maybe even So, it was really important to though she has one specialty they are struggling because one
a life coach. me to have my freedom.” that she loves. “I focus on of their core values is honesty
At the time this idea was As they say the best laid millennial women with an em- and loyalty, but they are in a re-
met with a bit of resistance plans… Annie took her first phasis on stress management in lationship that doesn't practice
when she said that out loud, class and realized how much my private practice. I also work that same core value. Perhaps
as family felt this would mean she hated it. She stayed through with two mental health com- they work for a boss who lies
going it alone with no financial the first semester and then panies and my clients are both and cheats repeatedly. I make
security. Annie’s undergradu- decided she was going to male and female ages 18-65.” them understand that it is no
ate degree was in Psychology pursue her original goal. She One of the key elements wonder that they are unhappy
with a minor in Sociology. Her would be a life coach. “I was to coaching is being able to in their job, because they hold
family encouraged her to get in California, in the Bay area. identify if coaching is really so strongly to these values.”
additional education to assure I was broke, broke, broke, what a client needs. Annie Millennials face many
her financial future. barely making rent and having will provide recommendations struggles today, and Annie
“It was actually the reason like $20 to last me two weeks and referrals to psychologists helps walk them through many
I ended up in San Diego. I got between paychecks. Coming or psychiatrists if she feels the of these. “Another issue I find
into a master's program for from Jersey to California, I had need exists. with my clients is a lack of con-
speech language pathology. I no idea what the prices would “I'm very comfortable fidence and self-esteem. Both
figured I would work in this be like in San Francisco. I just referring people to therapy men and women struggle with
field and coach on the side. As didn't know. I knew I would telling them that at this time, I these issues.”

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