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because they force you out of your comfort zone and demand that you finally attend to the problem with complete honesty. It's time to take off your masks and
reveal the feelings at the heart of who you are. It is the only way to true growth within the relationship. The longer these issues are ignored, denied or masked,
the more deep rooted the issue becomes and the greater the level of pain and heartache when they finally burst their way to the surface.

You Are The Source Of Your Love

When the initial bliss of relationships start to fade, the common misconception we adopt is that it is up to the other person in our relationship
to do or say something to make you feel more “in love”

You are the source of the love that you feel in your relationship, NOT the other person. Bear with me on this, I will explain in more detail later
in the chapter. For now though, it is crucial to understand that it is your responsibility to learn how to fall in love with your partner over and
over again. It isn’t something you do once only and can then sit back. Know their needs, remember the essential elements that made you feel
the sensation of love, showing attention, affection, appreciation, acceptance and understanding. Demonstrate your respect, passion and above
all, your friendship for them. Love is an active verb, like a plant that will die without water, love will die without your care.

STAYING IN LOVE

Staying in love is, perhaps, the greatest challenge in your relationship. A substantial number of people stay together after love has gone.

The truth is not complicated...it is just hard to grasp and keep in one’s awareness. Love is a relationship. This is not hard to understand. What is more difficult
to really comprehend is that every relationship is an independent entity. It is like a separate person. It is made up all the interactions between the members of
the relationship. This relationship remembers and influences how every future communication is interpreted.

To make it even more demanding, love changes as it grows. It goes through phases,, just like a person. We are not surprised that an infant, child, adolescent or
adult require from us different treatment, and we quickly develop the necessary skills to interact with them. We should not be surprised that falling in love,
being in love, and long-time love require, if we are to be successful lovers, that we create new, more appropriate understandings, skills and practices to enhance
our love in every phase.

Love does not have a singular meaning, for example: tender love, passionate love, romantic love, true love, pure love, spiritual love, lust, eros, and sexual love
all have discrete meanings.

Love is complex—far more complex than sadness, anger, fear, pleasure, pride or joy. But we know enough to identify some specific ways to make love stay if
we focus on our experience and our awareness, and do not depend upon our love to maintain itself.

Six actions impact every relationship negatively. In ascending order of seriousness: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, blocking-out, hostility and failure to Page323
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