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6. You're able to work through your problems. It's natural to have some bumps in the relationship road to true bliss. People in healthy relationships see
disagreements as a chance to learn more about their partner. However, if you're creating problems, or if you think every fight is the "big one" leading
to a break up, you should probably rethink your relationship.
7. You feel safe. You're not afraid of losing your partner.
8. You can't explain why you're together. Many people coordinate their lives so that they have to be together. Ask yourself if you're truly together
because you want to be, and not simply because of circumstances or to keep the image of the happy family unit upheld. If the answer is "yes," then
you'll probably stay together. If it's "no," you're bound to have problems — if you haven't already.
9. You don't compare your partner to others. There will always be someone more beautiful, smarter or more athletic than your partner, but you don't
care because you only want to be with him or her.

If you still don't know whether your love will last, try this last piece of advice Make a list of what you require from someone to be happy. If the list contains
changes that are conditional to your happiness, you will be truly happy only when you see those changes appear indefinitely. If you are genuinely happy in
your heart with who your partner is without the uncertainty of change, you may have found a relationship that will last. Remember though, they must sincerely
want and be capable of making those changes, you can only really change you. Ask yourself “If the changes I want never appear, could I happily accept that?”
Again, only you know the answer.

LOVE FICTION AND FACT

Conditioning and beliefs create misconceptions that affect our views, choices and intelligent decisions in the area of love. There is a mass
of misinformation that we accept as true that can have an adverse effect on the outcomes of our experiences of love. Romantic novels,
television programmes and our assumptions about relationships help perpetuate many of these misconceptions.

As we discuss each misconception, cast your mind over your present and past relationships and ask yourself how many of them have played a part
in the outcomes you have experienced.

LOVE IS ENOUGH

“If I just keep loving him things will turn out ok”

“We can get through anything together if we just keep loving”
“Ok, so she puts me down all the time, I love her so it will work out”
“She is so insecure, I have to be her pillar of strength as well as my own, but love will get us through.”
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