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Love is the most powerful emotion known to man yet love alone cannot resolve issues like these just by believing it will. The danger in believing that love is
enough is that the real problem is masked by our refusing to honestly face up to the real problem lying underneath.
Love can “fool” us into believing :-

1. If we avoid facing our relationship problems, by telling ourselves: "If we love each other enough, none of these issues will matter."
2. I can stay in an unloving relationship even when they are not working by telling myself, "If I just love her more, she will change."
3. That "If I had only loved her more, I know I could have saved the relationship."

Love is the foundation for any good relationship. But if a relationship is going to survive and grow, it needs a lot more than love. Sadly believing that love
is enough can cause you heartache and pain because it convinces you to stay in relation ships that are not healthy. People with poor self-esteem or a childhood
history of neglect or abuse create for themselves a victim or martyr type personality that becomes habitual and often attract relationships they
find difficult to leave. They convince themselves that if they just find a way to love their partner more, their destructive actions will fade over time
and be replaced with the true love that they themselves display.

FACT : YOUR partner's behaviour is determined by their character that has nothing to do with how loving you are. Love alone is not enough.
FACT : Most relationships that fail, do so because the couple make premature commitments before they have identified whether they are truly compatible or
not. Many are consumed with the romantic illusion of love and it is only when faced with trauma, that they are forced to try to make the jig-saw pieces fit.

TRUE LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT EXISTS

The very same songs, poetry and romantic novels that perpetuate the misconception about love being enough, also contribute to the belief that we really can
fall in love at the first sight of our beloved. Like a bolt out of the blue, true love can apparently hit any one of us the very moment we first set eyes on someone.

I’m sorry to burst a romantic bubble, but belief in the misconception of love at first sight, is a sure path to heartache further down the line.

“Yes but it felt like falling in love, if it wasn’t love what was it?”

LUST: When you experience raw sexual chemistry and attach more emotion to the bond than actually exists. Intense physical attraction is most often mistaken
for love because of the rush of chemicals and the apparent physical match we formulate in our minds eye that the person represents.

IMAGE INFATUATION: How handsome or beautiful they are, how they talk, the work they do, the power they exude, the money they have, even the car
they drive can tick boxes in our minds, so that we become infatuated with their image and mistake the intensity of the feeling for love at first sight. Page328