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The very real danger of believing in love at first sight, creates the likelihood that you will be blinded by the intensity of initial chemistry and overlook the long
term compatibility prospects. Infatuation can occur in a moment, true love grows in stages over time.

WE CAN ONLY HAVE ONE TRUE LOVE

“Are you the one for me?”

The problem here lies in the very question. Once again, we are led by society and culture to believe that for every one of us there is “one” other perfect being,
and we will never be happy until we find them. We go through life examining the prospective “one” dismissing every one with a flaw that disqualifies them
from being our dream person.

In our attempt to avoid making a fatal choice, we miss out on experiencing what could be, a truly wonderful and special relationship. With our present partners
we find ourselves secretly asking “I wonder if there is someone else out there who would make me happier?”

The first observation is that in believing that there could only ever be one person who would be right for me, I am looking for that one person to fill me up, to
satisfy my every emotional need, which of course is a route destined to be filled with disappointment and heartache.

Secondly, in believing there is only “one” the natural course of thinking would be to dismiss someone because they don’t fulfil every element of our “fantasy”
and we undervalue their unique qualities.

When a relationship ends, a common mistake is to choose a new partner who seems to have none of the flaws of the last, convincing ourselves that this is the “one”
because they don’t have those imperfections. Again, this involves selecting and committing before adequately satisfying ourselves they are compatible in key areas.

FACT : It is perfectly possible to experience true love and happiness with more than one person, in fact with many people. The human heart has a phenomenal capacity
for love, and we only limit ourselves to the quality and quantity of love we can attain because of erroneous belief in misconceptions about love.

FACT : Finding a partner with whom you are fully compatible, as well as one you love, is the secret for a healthy relationship that can last.

TRUE LOVE WILL MEET MY EVERY NEED

“I want you to fulfil my every need, physical, emotional, spiritual and mental. I expect you will know what I want and expect without me having to tell you.
Whenever I am feeling insecure, sad or confused, I expect you to lift me, cheer me up and have all the answers. On top of all that, you will help me love
myself more when I need it, entertain me and share all my interests. You will be my perfect companion” Page329