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FACT: We can become involved with people we discover we are no longer as compatible with.

FACT: We can find ourselves staying in relationships longer than we should, have a hard time letting go of partners, allowing the sexual aspect to delay
acceptance of incompatibility.

FACT: Good, even Great Sex does not equal true love, and plays a very small part in overall compatibility.

PRECIOUS MOMENTS FOR LOVERS

What does it mean to be a lover?

It is more than just being in a relationship with someone or making love to him or her. Millions are in relationships, have sex and share intimacy and
closeness, but few are real lovers. A real lover commits to, and participates in, a perpetual appreciation of their partner, celebrating the gift
of their relationship every single day by consciously exercising the key elements of love. To remind you, they are :-

• Demonstrating acceptance, appreciation and affection.
• Wanting the best for their partner, paying conscious attention, displaying genuine affection and understanding.
• Exhibiting friendship, respect and passion.

A true lover never forgets that their partner does not belong to them, they are on loan from the universe and they know that if they do not take good
care of them, they may lose them emotionally or even physically.

Ask yourself if this scene seems familiar to you. You arrive home tired from work, and your partner wants to tell you all about her day. The kids are
chattering, keen for you to know what happened in their eight hours too. Maybe you’re not aware of it, but you are not “there in the moment”, you’re
off somewhere mentally, still thinking about what happened in a meeting, or when you can get some time to yourself. Your partner can’t quite put her
finger on it, but something tells her instinctively, that you seem a little distant.

Then suddenly, the phone rings, it’s your colleague from work. You answer it and you switch to focused alert attentiveness. Laughing and animated,
focused entirely on the caller and what they have to tell you, your partner looks on. How does she feel right now? She is probably wondering why she
doesn’t get the same degree of conscious attentiveness to what she wants to share with you. She feels unimportant and hurt, not worthy of your quality
attention, resentful that others are allowed precious moments of “you” but she is not.

If we are honest, we’ve all been there. We all need to feel we are worthy of being listened to, being appreciated, accepted and understood. The greatest
measure of respect we can show to the ones we love, is being there in the moment for them when they need us, paying sincere conscious attention to
what they have to tell us. When we get this, we feel worthy, valued and loved.

Nothing that happens between you and your partner is insignificant. Everything that you say and do can create joy or pain. It is your job to identify Page331
what words and actions you use that will either strengthen your connection or weaken it.