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Communication
In order to be truly successful in a relationship, both parties must first know themselves inside and out. We cannot
expect someone to know our needs if we don't express them explicitly, or worse, if we don't even know them
ourselves.

Ladies, let’s face it, men wish we came with manuals (and sometimes remotes) that outlined: “If this part
malfunctions, do this. If this starts to act up, add more fluids here.” And

Gentlemen, us ladies wish you came with remote controls too: only, we just need the one button; the “communicate”
button! What this tells us is we can all benefit from learning to be clear and concise with one another on our
emotions, needs, and wants.

The vast majority of us fail to do so for several reasons: we don’t know ourselves well enough, we do know but are
terrified to express them for fear of losing them, or we somewhat know what we're feeling but not exactly why we're
feeling it or what we'd like to have done about it. The possible reasons for why we fail to communicate clearly and
concisely are as complicated as they are long. In order to be crystal clear about our emotions, needs, and wants, we
must be fully self-aware.

Ladies, nothing damages a man’s psyche more than a woman who is wishy-washy in her own emotions. He cannot
reach your heart if you don’t give him clear directions, or worse still, if you yourself have no clue where it is.

In an article published by relationship coach Royi Raye, she speaks to us on this very subject. “In order to connect
with a man’s heart so he’ll feel compelled to be with you, worship and adore you the way you deserve, you have to
feel YOUR own heart first. Once he feels your heart, he’ll open up his, creating a heart-to-heart connection that
begins with expressing your feelings and being your most feminine, authentic self.”

Let me be even more clear. Ladies, this does not just apply to our heart and emotions. It applies to all
communication. Don't beat around the bush. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Express what you want. A
worthy man will respond to your request right away – not only fulfilling your desire but connecting to your heart on
a deeper level. His respect for you will increase simply because you were able to trust him with a well-thought-out
request. This does not mean you should request things you don't really want or need. Be warned – if you constantly
throw requests at him that are paired with mixed signals (going back and forth, retracting a request and stating a
different one), he will become deaf to all requests and miss the ones you really mean.

Ladies, now it’s our turn. Remember to let each of these soak in and challenge your paradigms for what you have
deemed as the design of your heart. Gentlemen, I encourage you to pay even closer attention to this section as your
ability to love your woman will be directly linked to how well you understand these concepts.

Women
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● The questions of a woman's soul: Do you see me? Am I captivating? Do I have a beauty all my own?
● A woman’s soul longs for “a beauty to unveil. This is not just culture, or the need to ‘get a man.’ This is her heart,
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part of her design.”
● Women want to be fought for, to be romanced, adventure to share, and beauty to unveil.
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● So many men feel as if winning the beauty is the adventure, but women are mysteries to be enjoyed, not solved.
Women want to be a part of the adventure as well.
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11 Eldredge, John, and Stasi Eldredge. Captivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman’s Soul. Thomas Nelson. 2005
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