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Narcissists are notorious for demonstrating traits of
dissatisfaction and infidelity which directly

contributes to their reputation of consistently losing

interest in their relationships.

The reason as to why a narcissist will lose interest in

a relationship can be attributed to their decreased

expectations of intimacy as well as a faltering

interest in the relationship as the ‘chase phase’ of

the relationship is no longer applicable once they

are in the relationship.
A majority of narcissists experience difficulty in

sustaining and maintaining a relationship for any

meaningful duration (greater than six months to a

few years) as they prioritise self and power over

selflessness and intimacy.

Ek was vir baie jare getroud en miskien was dit my naïewe lewensbeskouing wat my
ondergang veroorsaak het, maar die Here se genade het my ook die krag en vermoë gegee
om nie alleen dit te kon oorleef nie, maar uiteindelik tot die besef te kom dat daar faktore in
die lewe van ander mense is, wat ons nie verstaan nie. Hiermee bedoel ek dat die Bybel is vir
my die alfa en omega van die lewe, en alle lewens raad is daarin saamgevat om deur ons
gehoorsaam te word. Kammi Rosi sê van toksiese mense dat hulle dink hulle wederhelf is
slegs 'n verlenging van hulleself: “...the dynamic has always been a one-way street. You give,
I take. To me you don’t have feelings. Your purpose is to adapt and cater to my needs and
that is why you have put on a false persona (according to my way of thinking) in our
relationship. This persona is designed to complement mine, in other words you are not a real
person and you have no identity to me other than being an extension of myself. Your focus
would always be about me and my needs so I do not want to know, understand or even care
that you are crying inside because of what I do to you. So, to answer your question in regards
to my (toxic) love: The way I view public servants is the same way I view everyone, including
you. People’s feelings are just an abstract idea to me, they don’t exist in my mind. It’s just
nothingness. Mine is what is important and the only one that counts.”

Elinor Greenbag (sielkundige) sê: “Every toxic person I know ends up causing a tremendous
amount of pain to anyone with whom they are in a close relationship. Often, they are

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