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Chafetz Chayim הרימשה תבוח סרטנוק רַמאֹי יִמ ,אקְָסִע רֵתֶּה הָשָׂע םִא וּלִּפֲאַו .הָיִּחְתַּבּ דֵמוֹע וֹניֵאְדּ ,הֶז לַע )ה"עש זֶמרֶ לאקְֵזֶחְי טוּקְלַי( ל"ַזֲח וּרְמָאְדּ ,תיִבּרִ לֶשׁ קֶסֵע וֹא .םיִתֵמַּה תַיִּחְתִל רָעְנִנ וֹרָפֲע ןיֵאְדּ ,).'ה הָטוֹסְבּ( ל"ַזֲח וּרְמָאְדּ ,הָוֲאַגַּה ןוֲֹע םוּשִּׁמ רָשְׁפֶא
Kuntres Chovat HaShemirah הרימשה תבוח סרטנוק
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these things (enumerated in the Baraytah) whether the intent was
for “good” or was or “bad” are known only within the heart (the
mind) of the individual who is speaking. Only the individual
himself knows if his intent was for good in all innocence, or for א"י קרֶֶפּ
bad to embarrass or shame someone else, as he can always claim
– “I only meant to do good. I thought that he did have grain to דוּמִּלְל םיִנַּמְז שֵׁכוֹר ,םיִשָׁנֲא םִע תוּרְבַּחְתִה טֵעַמְמַה
sell” or “I really did want to buy that.” (Rashi)
.הֶלֲעַנ וֹדוּמְלַתְו ,הרָוֹתּ
Furthermore, Chazal have said there (Gemara Babba Metziah
58b) that oppressive \ abusive “speech” is worse than oppressive
\ abusive “business practices,” that regarding deceitful “speech” וֹלְצֶא םֵיּקְַתִתֶּשׁ םָדָאָה ןֵנוֹבְּתִי רֶשֲׁאַכֶּשׁ ,וּנרְַאֵבּ רָבְכּ הֵנִּה
the Torah says (Vayikrah 25:17) “and you shall fear your Gd,” ,םיִשָׁנֲא םִע תוּרְבַּחְתִהַה טֵעַמְל ךְירִָצ ,הרָיִמְשַּׁה תַבוֹח
but there is no comparable pasuk regarding abusive “business
practices.” Moreover, one (i.e., hurtful speech) relates to a person’s הֶארְִיְו ,תוֹיוּנְפּ תוֹעָשׁ הֵבּרְַה םוֹיַּבּ וֹל וּרֲאָשִּׁי אָליֵמִּמוּ
physical body and the other (i.e., monetary deceit) relates only to
his money. One can be rectified (i.e., money can be returned) אָתיִא ןֵכְו .הָלָטַּבְל ןַמְזַּה ךְֵלֵי אלֶֹּשׁ ידְֵכּ ,הרָוֹתַּבּ ןֶהָבּ קֹסֲעַל
but the other cannot be rectified. The gemara further states that ירְֵשַׁא" :)'א 'א םיִלִּהְתּ( קוּסָפַּה לַע ):ח"י הרָָז הָדוֹבֲעַבוּ( שׁרָדְִמַּבּ
a husband must constantly be careful not to use oppressive \
abusive speech to his wife because she is very sensitive and can דַמָע אלְֹו ךְַלָה אלֶֹּשׁ רַחַאֵמ יִכְו ."'וֹגְו ךְַלָה אלֹ רֶשֲׁא שׁיִאָה
easily be brought to tears. Regarding this Chazal have also said םיִשָׂי אָלֶּא ,הָערָ אלְֹו הָבוֹט הֶשֲׂעַי אלֹ לוֹכָי ,בַשָׁי אלְֹו
(Gemara Babba Metziah 59a) that all of the gateways to Heaven
are locked except for the Gateway of Abuse \ oppression, as the הַמוּ ."וֹצְפֶח 'ה תרַוֹתְבּ םִא יִכּ" :רַמוֹל דוּמְלַתּ ?הֶפַּל דָי
pasuk states (Amos 7:7) “Behold, Hashem is standing on the wall תוֹרוֹהְל ,"וֹצְפֶח 'ה תרַוֹתְבוּ" רַמָא אלְֹו ,"םִא יִכּ" רַמָאֶשּׁ
(in strict judgment) of your “oppression \ abuse” and in His hand
He is holding the means to collect “payment” from those who םָדָאָה ךְירִָצֶּשׁ תֶמֱא :וֹרְצִי וֹנֲעְטִיְו םָדָאָה בֹשֲׁחַי לַאֶשׁ ,וּנָל
oppress others.” 42
,םֶהָמִּע וֹבָשׁוֹמ תוֹיְהִלְו םיִצֵלַּה םִע עַבקֶ הֶשֲׂעַי אלֶֹּשׁ ,רֵהָזִּל
Our Authorities have further written that if a question arises that ךְירִָצ ןיֵא םוֹקָמ לָכִּמ לָבֲא .הרָוֹתּ דֹמְלִל ךְירִָצ אלֲֹהַדּ
requires knowledge and understanding; one may not ask that
question to someone who is incapable of answering it. One may םַגּ תֶברֶֹעְמ וֹתְּעַדּ הֶיְהִתְו ,םֶהָמִּע רֵבַּחְתִהְלִּמ לָלְכּ עַנָמִּהְל
not say to him, “What do you think about that?” and similarly in םָלוֹעְל :).ז"י תוֹבֻּתְכּ( רָמֲאַמַּה הֶזָל ףרֵָציִו .םיקִרְָפִל םֶהָמִּע
all comparable situations. The general rule to follow is that one
may not say to a fellow Jew anything that would cause him pain וֹתוּרְבַּחְתִהְו .תוֹיּרְִבַּה םִע תֶברֶֹעְמ םָדָא לֶשׁ וֹתְּעַדּ הֶיְהִתּ
or anguish or sorrow.
אלֶֹּשׁ ,רַמוֹל בוּתָכַּה אָבּ הֶזָלְו .וּנֶּמִּמ וּצְצוֹלְתִי אלֶֹּשׁ ליִעוֹתּ
It also seems that communicating abuse (does not mean only by
use of verbal expression, but it also) includes written expression הַמוּ ."וֹצְפֶח 'ה תרַוֹתְבּ םִא יִכּ" ,לָלְכוּ לָלְכּ םֶהָמִּע ףֵתַּתְּשִׁי
or hints (allusions \ veiled references) as well, if his intention בוּתָכַּה רַמֲאַמְכוּ .לָלְכּ הֶזָל שׁוּחָי אלֹ ,וּנֶּמִּמ םיִגיִעְלַמֶּשּׁ

177 180 די קרפ םייח ץפח הרימשה תבוח סרטנוק .םיִנָפּ תַנָבְּלַהְו ערָָה ןוֹשָׁלְו .ערָָה רֶצֵי הֶז ,רֵמוֹא יֵוֲה ?םָדָא לֶשׁ וֹפוּגְבּ שֵׁיֶּשׁ ]ַמּ[ַה לָכְו ,ירְֵמַגְל תוְֹצִמַּהְו הרָוֹתַּה םָדָאָה לֶצֵא זָא וּרקְְפֻהֶשׁ ןיקְִסוֹפּ וּלִּפֲא ,סֵעוֹכֶּשׁ םָדָא לָכּ :):ו"ס םיִחָסְפּ( ל"ַזֲח וּרְמָא דוֹעְו .וֹבּ ןיִטְלוֹש