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rigid and inflexible. It leads to Apathy where the partners begin to lose enthusiasm towards

each other. Next, the expectations become Burden and so does the relationship.”

“On the other side, relationship can be strengthened when the partners identify and

understand the needs that are driving the wishes. Convert the aligned needs into principles

that guide their everyday behavior and actions. The ultimate bliss can be achieved if the

relationship becomes expectation-free.”

“Betsy and I were close to Apathy few weeks back. Turning it back has been an exhilarating

journey since. We still have to understand and align the exact needs of our relationship to

make it sustainable, but we have certainly pulled back from the brink. Still an exceedingly long

way to even know if we can ever get to the world of expectation-free relationship.”

By now Anne and Vik were eagerly soaking every word out of Dan’s mouth and were no

longer as anxious as when the conversation started. But they were still pensive, quiet, and

looked down at the table to avoid eye contact with either of them or with each other.

Dan then described his Triangle of Relationship and how people in a relationship try to

jostle for the limited space in control area. He explained how he had dumped his ego and

moved out of control to Empathy and Compassion where Betsy and him now happily co-

exist.

“We are not here to give you advise guys. We cannot; we are ourselves still learning and

trying. But as friends, who are very fond of you, we want to share our concern. We do not

know what is going on, but having known you both for so many years, we can sense all is not