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“I used my recent learnings Ron. The credit should go to you.”

Ron just smiled.

“Let’s start today’s topic Dan. Were you able to reflect on my last week question -- Is

Conflict good or bad?”

“I must apologize Ron. I was so excited with my discovery of the Control-Empathy-

Compassion, CEC model, that I forgot about the homework.” Dan said apologetically. His

thoughts again comparing Old and New Dan!

‘Old Dan would have never admitted that he missed a deadline and would have cooked up an off-the-cuff

lackluster response that would have done more harm than good. Boy, am I learning fast!’

“Not to worry Dan. You did far more than the homework. You created a brilliant model –

but the name CEC does no justice to it; let us call it Dan’s Triangle of Relationship – a

model that Relationship Counselors may use for generations to come!” Ron smiled flatteringly.

Dan sat there not knowing what to do or say other than imagine Dan’s Triangle of

Relationship being taught in Jonathan’s class at Carnegie. The thought lit up his face despite

his best effort to conceal.

“OK. Let us start with conflict definition – conflict begins when ‘wants are mutually

impossible’ between two individuals, groups or even nations.”

“Can conflict also be within an individual Ron?” Dan interrupted Ron.

“Dan you have once again gone ahead of me.” Said Ron smiling, “By traditional wisdom, a

conflict requires more than one want involving more than one entity. I call it external conflict.