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apply here too. When we take time to feel & think, we can tailor our response, which is not

possible when we respond instantly.”

“Excellent” Ron remarked. “Very well said. Every situation gives us the opportunity of

choice between a negative or positive response. But the choice only becomes evident when

we wait ThERe (Think, Evaluate, Respond). ThERe is particularly important when something

disturbs, angers, or agitates us. Without it, we allow our ego to take control.”

“A learned person once told me, never give into the urge of responding instantly to an

email or message if it irritates, annoys or infuriates you; it will be your ego talking! Write your

reply immediately to vent if you must, but do not press ‘send’; instead, put it in your draft

folder. Read it again when you are calm; you will invariably change that draft to make it more

balanced or just delete it.”

“Same is true for our actions or verbal response. Unfortunately, there is no draft box in a

conversation or situation. ThERe is the only way to prevent our ‘ego-act’ and respond

mindfully. It is challenging but can become instinctive through awareness and practice.”

Dan was visibly pensive, ‘So true. I was ego-acting with Betsy till few weeks back; not surprisingly I

felt bad instead of happy whenever I said or did something to get better of her. And each time the retrospection

cycle started’

“Let us talk about external conflict now. Recall we agreed that conflict is ‘when the wants

of two entities are mutually impossible’. What is the difference between Want and Need Dan?”

asked Ron.