Page 24 - Sarita Maybin

Straight Talk

remember when we of help. Even if it takes a
were considered by THEIR AUNTS LOVED THEM, few before you find the
almost everyone on right one and most im-
the planet to be the AS MUCH AS THEY HATED THEM portant it has taught her-
nation most want- self to forgive her sister,
ed to emulate. I can by Maggie Ramos Daisy and accept that not
remember when you everything was her sister's
could actually have a AR, FAR AWAY LILY As a child her older father's sisters, so being fault. Her sister at the time
conversation with a Fcan narrowly hear the sister Daisy, had been their favorite niece, in a was also just a kid being
neighbor, a friend, a echo of a voice asking her learning sexual practices way that made Lily feel taken advantage of.
family member about to come back. from family members. good. As for Lily, she can
politics that didn’t Lily recalls, how she At least a couple of her During the training at share that internally she
end the relationship. I had left the conference father's relatives, had the seminar, Lily's brain also learned to forgive
can remember when room in which they were sexually grasped away recalled everything it had herself for something that
we all respected the practicing to become her innocence when she chosen to block out for had never been her fault.
police. I can remember facilitators and co-facilita- was between five or six many years. From that day She was able to let go of
when award shows tors in order to offer sup- years old. Lily, being a year on she understood, why the guilt and shame she
were about awards and port groups for children younger than her sister; her and Daisy; her older lived with for at least the
not a venue for some in need. Lily remembers she was often left alone sister had never been first thirty years of her life.
over paid celebrity how she ran out towards with Daisy, her older sister. able to get along. It was Everyday is a stepping
to make his or her the back door not know- While Daisy kept an eye something her parents stone that brings them
political statement. I ing where she was head- on Lily; Lily, soon became didn't understand either. closer of accepting and
can remember when a ed. On the other side, she her outlet each time she Of course, they were not learning how to heal and
football player would came across a steep set aware of the damage their leave this experience
never ever think of of stairs in which she sat father's sisters had caused. in the past, if it is not
disrespecting the flag. at the bottom of the last With time, Lily learned brought back up to help
I can remember so couple of steps. that professional coun- others.
many things, but this It seemed as if her seling was a route for her If you are one of many
article is limited in body had become to seek help from. After out there experiencing
the number or words numbed and had the awakening during her abuse, I suggest you
it contains. It’s easy unconsciously begun early 20’s, Lily began tak- speak up and seek help.
to point fingers, but to disconnect. Lily's ing therapy, and still does. If you are afraid to share
from my perspective, I spirit had also began to Now when she shares her with your parents like Lily
blame the media, both wonder off without a story, she does not feel was; find someone you
broadcast and social. clear direction. From a shameful anymore to say can trust. Identify yourself
I blame the entertain- far distance she can hear that therapy has been a in some way with a friend,
ment industry, which the echo of a voice, “come big part of her healing professor or a mentor.
include tv, movies, back!, come back! You had the chance and at process. Lily has been able Someone you can trust.
sporting events, for need to come back from any corner of the house in to overcome part of the Lily understands it is hard
always promoting wherever you are! There which Daisy would have damage that hate and to trust anybody after
the negative and not is a big exit sign in front the opportunity to. Daisy love have caused her. being taken advantage
enough positive. I of you”. The professional began to sexualy practice Lily realizes that she of. But once you find that
believe it just fuels the counselor in charge of with her sister Lily like a can not say if the flash- person everything in your
unhappiness of others the seminar insisted as ragged doll everything backs will ever go away life will begin to fall into
that feel their wants or she forced Lily's head up, their aunts had been or if the triggers will ever place.
needs are not being supporting it from her habitually doing to Daisy stop, but she is certain Now Lily is grateful
met. chin and redirecting her for a very long time. that attending profession- and appreciative of
In concluding this eye sight towards an exit Growing up their al therapy sessions have those around her that
article, I have to say sign. The counselor, phys- aunts always seemed to assisted her to compre- have helped her in many
these are my opin- ically shook up her body, have Lily as their favorite hend many things she shapes and forms. Lily has
ions and not that of and with persistence she niece and they appar- hadn't before. Therapy has become who she is, not
San Diego Woman’s successfully brought Lily ently loved and liked her helped to bring her much only because of her past
magazine. Please don’t back to awareness. more than they liked the closer to her immediate experiences but because
let this event change Little did Lily know Daisy. Their aunts always family members. Lily of those special people
the way we live, that was that during the train- claimed that the Daisy has learned to live, love who have been part of her
is what ultimately the ing she would re-experi- had become mommy's and respect them in a journey and she respects,
perpetrators of such ence part of her childhood girl and the Lily was healthier manner. She admires and looks up to.
acts want. Remember, that had been hidden in daddy's right hand. Some- became more open about Lily expresses, that
we still live in the land the deepest archives. thing that for odd reasons different topics, especially now she is an aunt, and
of the free and the For many years, her made them proud. At with her mother. Lily also loves her dear nephews
brave. mind had chosen to least that's what they had learned that their is a fit- to death, but not near as
forget an unbearable part the youngest one believe ted therapist out there for much as she would ever
24 of her life. as a kid. They were their each one who is in need hate them.