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It’s a ‘rationalization technique’ we’re often taught by lawyers

and counselors. These type people can gain our confidence if

they make us feel better by transferring guilt from us to someone

or something else. They become like a false ‘hero’ to us. We

react and blame in two different ways:

(1) Who pushed me? — and (2) I quit.

(1) WHO PUSHED ME? Blaming others

displaces guilt. If we fail, or aren’t success-

ful in business, marriage, child rearing,

athletics, etc., we feel better if we are not

to blame. So we first take RESPONSIBILITY, but if that fails then

we pass the buck.

I think it was Aristotle who said:

“Wherever I go, there I am.”

It is true that I am the only person I can control to any degree

(and I don’t always do the best I can with me). If I blame others,
and transfer responsibility away from myself, than I lose ALL

control.

(2) I QUIT! Blaming leads to quitting
— whether it be a job, a marriage, a

business venture, a sporting event, or
anything else. Our attitude is, “If you’re

not going to believe that it’s not my

fault, then I quit.” Quitters are losers who

never finish the game of life.

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