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Does the narcissist know you're the real victim even though they act like

they are?
Yes, absolutely. There is a lot of chatter that the narcissist doesn’t know what they are
doing. That these are impulsive reactions they learned from being abused. The thing is
this, you are hurting, they see it and it makes them feel good. They feel better seeing you
in pain. The only reason
they act like they are is
because it’s a
manipulation ploy to
torture you further. Make
no mistake about it,
disordered people get off
on your destruction. They
get off on your anger,
frustration, grief, anxiety
and depression.

It makes them feel GOOD

Why do narcissists
always blame you for

everything?
Because to them you are
the one who behaved
badly, the bad one, and
they can’t own their own
feelings of inappropriate
rage so they direct the
blame at the nearest
available party: you. It
helps to recognize that to a narcissist they are the victims in the scenario, and anything you
do is victimizing them, not that that is the truth. It isn’t.
If the narcissist couldn’t blame you for everything the narcissist would have to take
responsibility for some of the drama going on and they can’t handle accountability.
Narcissists are fragile, like a flower that wilts in just the right conditions, and will curl up and
wither away if they admit that they stuffed up—or so they think. Narcissists also project their
unwanted qualities onto you, so every time they are arrogant, mean spirited and cruel well
then, it must be your fault, right? Wrong. In the end it’s all a game of semantics to them.

Sy het vir alle praktiese doeleindes my wese oorgeneem. Sy het besluit wanneer ek goed moes
voel, gelukkig moes wees en met wie ek vriendelik moes wees. Ek dink dit het haar behaag
om my af te trek in ‘n put van ellende sodat sy dit kan gebruik om ander te vertel hoe
ongebalanseerd ek is, en haar vreugde was om my dan te vertel ek is net so sleg soos my ma
en net so mal ook.

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