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‘vloermoer’ werd. Sy daarenteen, was amper nooit sonder vriende nie, altyd by ander om
haar lot te bekla en bewondering op te eis. Dit was net onmoontlik om ‘n verskoning of ‘ek is
jammer’ uit haar te kry. Sy was net nooit verkeerd nie of daar was altyd ‘n rede oor hoekom
sy so reageer het. Ek was plein te dom om te verstaan of in te sien dat sy ‘n reg gehad het om
so op te tree.

Narcissism and the Illusion of change

People with narcissistic personality

disorder including those with strong or

dominant narcissistic traits may alter their

behaviours sporadically, however, the
psychological dynamics of narcissism will

typically remain for a lifetime. The

promise that the narcissist will change is a

psychological manipulative setup as
narcissists are extremely resistant to

changing their behaviour. The paradox

here is that the only thing that stops a

narcissist from making any significant and
meaningful change is in fact their own

narcissism. Meaningful growth is often

the result of a conscious motivation to

change, however, a narcissist will typically
be unable to see they have a problem or

incapable of caring that a problem exists.

Quite simply, a narcissist is extremely

single-minded and maintains the belief
that they are never wrong. The promise of

change while verbally expressed is rarely

supported by consistent action over the

long term. (W Hardy Rising above
Narcissism)

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